Who is Your Advocate?

Frances McDormand as Elaine Miller in Dreamworks' Almost Famous - 2000

Everyone needs an advocate. Havi refers to them as negotiators. You know, the ones who talk your internal critics (monsters) down.

If I could choose anyone, it would be Elaine Miller. In Almost Famous. Played with fierce maternal devotion by Frances McDormand:

Listen to me. He’s a smart, good-hearted kid with infinite potential.

He’s not ready for your world of compromised values and diminished brain cells that you throw away like confetti. Am I speaking to you clearly?

If you break his spirit, harm him in any way, keep him from his chosen profession – you will meet the voice on the other end of this telephone and it will not be pretty. Do we understand each other?

I didn’t ask for this role, but I’ll play it. Now go do your best. Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid. Goethe said that. It’s not too late for you to become a person of substance.

Say these lines them when your internal critics show up, uninvited and unannounced.

You will be bold.

You will do something of substance.

And Elaine Miller has your back.

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    Thanks, Jacquelyn! I need an Elaine Miller in my life… wise and kind and doesn’t take crap from internal critics!

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